How Book Blogging Changes The Way I Read // A Very *Late* Post

Okay, okay, okay sooo on April 10th, 2018 marked my second year of blogging, and I totally forgot about it?? Like, I didn’t get the notification, and I only found out because I was planning out my week, and there was a star next to April 10. BUT THERE WAS JUST A STAR, SO MY STUPID BRAIN PROBABLY IGNORED IT, UGHHHHH!!

So yeah, that’s literally my life in one paragraph.

Since, I couldn’t write a whole proper, sappy post about how important this is too me I’m just going to make up for it by writing a less, sappy post  about how blogging changed me.

It’s not a lie when I say that blogging has made a huge impact on me. Not just my social life (i don’t need friends anymore), but in one of the most important things too me. The way I read.

I could launch a whole separate post of what reading means to me, but since that is not the point of this post we’re not going to that. Instead, I’m going to talk about how blogging changed my way of reading.

changing the way i review books

I have joined goodreads way back in 2012 way before I even knew what a blog was, mainly because I wanted to find out good books to read. It was a wonderful platform, and when I found out you can make your own reviews I freaked out, and proceeded to write a whole bunch of reviews.

Except they were reviews that only consisted of “I LOVE THIS BOOK SO MUCH JKDSFLIJWEEREWIWEAJIEHNWOEO” or “wow this book was amazing lajfksjljoeroaur, read it aohdlsajdla”. And tbh, I still sort of review like that, but back then I considered this professional.

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Now, however, I put a lot of effort into my reviews. I make sure they make sense, try to make them funny, and most importantly make my opinion clear. This is because when I’m reading, I keep track of things I would want to use in my review. Things I would’ve never noticed or pay attention too. It made me a very critical reader which also helped me in real life.

help me discover important issues (ex: diversity)

I’ll be really honest, and I hope this isn’t considered a problematic statement, but I never did notice the lack of diversity in books until I actually started blogging. And then I realized how important this topic is, and I started to buy more books that have diverse reps in them.

And then I noticed a blog post a few days ago talking about World War II and how it affected her family. I took an interest in it, and now I’m reading The Book Thief (again), and looking at it with a different perspective.

help me discover evn more books + genres

What’s the one thing that’s better than books? MORE BOOKS!!

I was, and still am a HUGE fantasy reader. And I didn’t really like contemporary because I felt like they were pretty pointless. But then Kasie West book The Fill In Boyfriend was suuuper hyped, and I checked it out. And I was hooked. I started to read other contemporary authors like Sarah Dessen, Jeniffer Brody, Emery Lord, and soon contemporary novels are something I read regularly.

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It’s crazy too think back, and see that I, disliked YA contempt. because now I can’t stop reading it.

And I figured out some really good book recs! There are so many great bloggers out there who hit me with they’re book reccs, and it’s so amzing?? Seriously, I’m tearing up rn.

Connecting with other people!

Sometimes I feel like that I’m the only one who actually touched a book in the past month when I’m with my friends. A lot of my friends don’t read books as obsessively, or happily as I do. And reading is literally, a great part of my life, and I don’t know where I’d be without it, so I don’t have a place to fangirl. But blogging of course, changed that.

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I know 50+ people online who have read the same books as me, and could fangirl with me, and that’s amazing!! Now when I’m reading, I look for books that me, and my other book blogging friends would enjoy.

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Happy late two years to Nerd In New York!! I hope you guys enjoyed this post! How does blogging affect you? Has it changed your life in a way?

 

 

 

 

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What Makes a Good Romance… A Good Romance? // ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

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I’m an absolute sucker for those cute, fluffy, innocent, and well written romance. Almost all the YA books I have ever read, they have some type of romance. So today I’m pretending that I have a love life (I don’t), and discussing things about the charestics of a good romance.

Character Dynamics

I think this actually given, but just to get this out of the way I’m writing this. The characters, they actually have to have chemistry. The author have to write them in such a way, that it won’t seem awkward or boring.

I know that a lot of people (namely, me) love the whole opposites attract thing, and I think it’s because of the way they’re personalities work together, and fit in a beautiful way, despite expecting them to clash. I love the dynamics of a snappy, sassy heroine, and the sort of aloof hero.

My favorites character tropes/dynamics

  • Enemies to lovers!! – I love these so much because it’s so fun watching/reading the characters realtionship go from hatred to dislike to tolerable to BAM! Lovers. It’s so cute.
  • Oppisites attract – Relationships where person A is super bright, perky, while Person B is mostly remote, and quiet are my favorite thing ever! And I know it’s so cliche, but it isn’t it so heartwarming (I’m trying to find synonyms for cute, lol).

My not so favorites

  • Best friends to lovers – I’m pretty sure that I’m on the minority for this one, but ehhh. I don’t know, I guess I don’t find it incredibile realistic, and would make a boring realtionship?? Like, they know everything about each other, what would make it more intresting or something?

Healthy!! Relationships!!

It’s 2018, and if I see yet, another problematic relationship I will erupt, and destroy everything in my path. Some (not all) books have this relationship where one character practically forces their S/O to do whatever they want. Or basically mentally or physically abuse them, and some people call it “love” or “cute”. It honestly disgusts me, and I hate reading book like that, and end up giving them a one star *cough* *cough* When Dimple Met Rishi *cough* *cough*.

I liek seeing realtionships that cute, and healthy. Where thye both have each other backs, support each other, and get each toher despite differences. Those are the ones that make my heart warm, and make me smile, and go like

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Just overall, a healthy, caring relationship in which, both parties are genuinley happy with each other!

Conflict to get things interesting.

Also known as ANGST!! I just love reading books that have heart wrenching, tear inducing angst. I honestly don’t know why I’m like this, but I can’t be the only one?? I feel like it’s here where the romance becomes interesting, and not just some senseless romance.

Some of my favorites are when:

  • the characters get into an aurgument because of a misunderstanding, and it’s up to one of them too reconcile the other.
  • The cheesy kdrama story line in which, the parents of the character A tries to tell Character B that they can’t be with each other because of social classes or something.
  • They are actually enemies on the oppisite side, and not meant to be in love (ahflkjafhas I absolutely LOOOVE THESE)
  • Character A convinces themselves that they can’t be with Character B because they are worried they will hurt them.

My non-favorites 

  • Love Triangles!! – Most people don’t like this either, and I totally agree with them. I find them so boring, and pointless, and sooo predictable. And also I suffer from second-lead syndrome  

I like angst when it’s temporary, like there will be a happy ending. Because if it doesn’t lmfao goodbye my heart.   

Impactful Relationships

This doesn’t even have to be about a romantic relationship. I like reading about friends or people who changed person A’s life somehow. It makes the whole romance seem more important, and not senseless.

Lot’s of fluffy moments!!

It’s pretty self-explanatory, but just a relationship filled with backhugs, forehead kisses, hand holding, blushing, and dID I MENTION FOREHEAD KISSES?? And it doesn’t even have to be just touching. But heart-to-heart conversations late at night looking up at the stars… Just overall, sweet things.

Recommendations!

 

 

  • The Art of Feeling by Laura Tims – I’m telling you this is such an underrated book, and the cover is so plain, and it’s nothing like the actual pages! I loved this book so much, I gave it five stars!! Eliot, and Samantha are just such a good couple, and not only that they make good friends too. Eliot has a condition where he can’t feel any pain, and has very self-destructive tendencies. Samantha is recovering from an accident, to which she lost her mother too. Samantha is such a caring person!
  • Made You Up by Francesca Zappia – This book wasn’t as highly hyped up as the authors other book (Eliza and her Monsters),but I actually liked this better than her other book. Miles has a similar personality too Eliot from The Art of Feeling, and Alex has a mental illness ( schizophrenia). Their romance is something that I will remeber for a long time because I seriously LOVED THIS.
  • The Unexpected Everything by Morgan Matson – Honestly, anything by Morgan Matson is pure gold, but I really loved this book becasue of the character development. And not to mention the awesome friendships! Andi, and Clark had such a meet-cute moment.

 

 

  •  The Upside of Unrequited by Becky Albertalli – CUTE, CUTE, CUTE!! I think mostly everyone has read or at least heard of this insanely, good book. And if you haven’t stop living under a rock. This book has it all: diversity, excellent romance, and cameos from Simon vs The Homosapiens Agenda!
  • Simon vs. The Homosapiens Agenda by Becky Albertalli – Okay, so this whole post was low-key inspired by Love, Simon. Which btw, sounds so cute, and wonderful, and too bad I’m too broke to go to the theatres. But this book was like the gay version of The Upside of Unrequited. And it is insanely good. I devoured the whole book in one whole sitting.
  • P.S I LIKE YOU by Kasie West – Kasie West is my go-to author for cute, original love stories, and P.S I Like You is, in my opinion one of her best works!! The concept of this book is actually really intresting, because it aslo focuses on family, not just romance.

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So that’s it for this post! I’m planning on updating two times a week, and it’s going well so far!! But anyways, what do you think makes a good romance? Do you focus more on the plot or the characters? What are some good YA romance books you have read in the past?? 

 

Blogging Under a Pseudonym: Harmful or Helpful? // I reveal my “secret identity” (PLEASE READ WHOLE POST)

When I first started Nerd in New York, I really had to sit down, and think about a lot of things. Blogging sounds much easier said than done. There are a whole bunch of factors that I grew to learn about during my first month of blogging. And one of them was blogging with my real name or not.

If you can’t already tell, I obviously chose to blog under a pseudonym because of… various reasons (which I get into later on), but now as my 2 year blogiverasry is approaching I’m sort of regretting that decision. And they’re many reasons for that.

P R O ‘ S

  • Honestly, the whole reason why I chose too make a pseudenoym in the first place was because of I didn’t want anyone to find out about this blog anyway. It’s a little ashaming to say, but I was pretty embarrassed.  There were so many reasons to judge me because of this blog because it didn’t seem like naything a regular teenager would do. So having a fake name was like a security blanket. No one would associate this blog to me.
  • Whole new me! – Creating a new name was like creating a new person – for me- anyway. Balie is supposed to be a confident, funny, smart, and above all, a good blogger. And after a while, it worked. I loved this online persona I made, and I guess 769 other people did too
  • I am a shy smol bean – Gosh, I’m so shyyyy I have about 8 friends total. I’m not lying when I say I’m a HUGE introvert. So when I made this blog revealing my name was out of the question. It would freak me out to know that people on the internet read, and commented about my opinons online

C O N ‘ S

  • So much pressure!! – Blogging under a pseudonym meant I have to create two versions of almost EVERYTHING. Creating a new email, new social media (Instagram, Twitter, Facebook Tumblr etc…) , and then making sure that I don’t accidentally mix the two up. One time my IRL friend asked me why my instagram name was Balie, and I freaked out. I realized that I followed her under my bookstagram because I’m dumb , and forgot to switch accounts.

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  • I’m really proud of what I had accomplished so far… – Getting books BEFORE they even come out, having a large following, able to communicate with people, discuss about major things. Those are just a few golden sides too blog blogging. I’m so proud of what I have accomplished so far, and I literally want to climb on top of the mountain and scream it to everyone. Did ya see that development right there? I went from being embarrassed about my blog, to being super prideful about it
  • Blogging under a fake name takes away some credibility for what I have done so far, because people will automatically thing that it’s not me, but someone else. I don’t want that too happen. I want my IRL friends too see this, and think “damn my friend is a genius” (because coding is super hard okay).
  • Creating a whole new image – So I know I listed this as a pro as well, but it can also be a con. After a while, I was tired of Balie. It didn’t really feel… me. I didn’t feel authentic. Balie wasn’t me, which I guess was the point of creating a fake blogging name. Over time, I didn’t like this name for me, it sounded so generic, and boring. And I was favoring my real name more. And this led me too this new decision:

I have decided to actually reveal my actual identity! 

I mean it’s super obvious from the actual title that I would do this but whatever.

Hi, I’m the main blogger behind Nerd In New York! My name is Amena!! 

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So from now on when any of you guys tag me, comment, or address me please make sure to use my real name!

I understand that it might be a bit weird, but hopefully we could get used to it.

Here are some facts about me

  • I’m Bengali (a country almost right next to India, but NOT IN INDIA)
  • I’m a Muslim teen (turning 15 soon enough)
  • I’m really scared of dogs (I was traumatized when a German Shepard tried to bite ,y hand off)
  • I have a weird shaped birthmark near my elbow which looks like a crescent moon
  • I have an unhealthy addiction to drama (lol)
  • I also listen to kpop, and watch kdrama’s (if you want me to listen/watch anything comment down below!!)

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Ahem… so I get that could get really weird. I’m literally changing MY WHOLE FREAKING NAME! But like it’s okay, I guess. So what are your thoughts on using a pseudonym in the blogging community? Have you ever used one? Would you ever use one? 

 

Monthly Wrap-up: March 2018 // HAHAHAHA I’M STILL ALIVE…

So somewhere along the month of March I just disappeared (again), but hey I have… absolutely no excuse except for the fact of school, and I have zero motivation. March proved yet, to be another flop because I had so many high expectations for myself for blogging, but obviously, it didn’t work out 😦 ! BUT I SWEAR ON MY TBR THAT I WILL SUCEED THIS APRIL, NO MATTER WHAT!

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  • I joined track, and am planning to join more sport teams!! – So rip my poor calves because track is killing me. And it’s just week 1, but it was an amazing opportunity to make even more friends, and I get to stalk the cute boys playing basketball (lol jk). But I’m even more excited to join the volleyball team after spring break, my own gym teacher said I show promise!! Agh, I feel so hyped up just thinking about it!!
  • I’m on break – and I have absolutely zero plans. Except for reading, and try to find my motivation to blog, oh and studying (midterms for the second term are right after the break, and my pimples are raging)
  • I started binge-watching new shows!! – So you know all that time I planned to work on this blog??? I actually wasted it by watching a whole bunch of new shows! Like 90210, That Man Oh Soo, Strong Woman Do Bong Soon (re-watch), Go Back Couple, and of course Supernatural, and Modern Family.

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  • I’m struggling to find motivation – I don’t know these days it’s so hard to start writing a discussion post, or any post in genearl. That’s sorta one of the reasons why this wrap-up is kinda late. I didn’t really want to push myself soo hard that I end up detesting blogging, which I don’t want to happen. And watching my stats plummel wasn’t really helping, but I understand that the reason behind that is my fault. I’m still going to continue, but it won’t exactly be as frequent.
  • I’m getting better at making aesthetics, and gif edits for my favorite edits – Usually after finishing a book I create an aesthetic (something that is visually pleasing to the eye) for the book, and then I post it at my tumblr. I have been getting more notes, and I’m really happy to show these out in the world.
  • AUTHORS RETWEET/LIKE SOME OF MY TWEETS – So this started happening around last month, but I posted an aesthetic of Starfish, and the author liked, and retweeted my post. So did other authors like April G. Tucholke (author of Wink Poppy Midnight) , and S.K Ali (author of Saints, and Misfits) lie, and retweet the aesthetics I made! AND I WAS BURSTING WITH HAPPINESS ASDFGHJKL.

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P O P U L A R   P O S T S

my blog 

how to spot a problematic book, and what to do with it

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Around the Blogoshphere 

 

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The books I read were meh this month, and lets just give me a pat on the back for being able to read 7, okay.

  • The Art of Feeling Laura Tims – Okay, talk about the most underrated book EVERRR! Like this book was so good, the writing style was super, the plot, the romance, EVERYTHING WAS JUST FANTASTIC!! Eliot is the perfect cinammon roll, and ugh my heart | 5 stars!!  
  • The Lovely Reckless by Kami Garcia – This took me forever to read because I was reading in ebook format, and ugh I hate ebook guys. Like they  are prety handy to use, but holding the actual physical book is wayyy better. Anyways, this was… okay?? Like it was intresting, but Marco really got on my nerves. | 3 stars 
  • The Square Root of Summer by Harriet Rueter Hapgood –  This was such a good, aesthetic-y, and well-written novel! Maybe one of the best I’ve read so far, but the main character was pretty damn annoying, and selfish. Also, it was super confusing, at times?? | 3.5 stars -> 4  
  • The Cruel Prince by Holly Black – THE CRUEL PRINCE WAS GREAT I LOVE IT, I WAS SOBBING BY THE END OF THAT BOOK, JUDE IS AWESOME, I STAN. | 4.5 STAARS!! 
  • Wink Poppy Midnight – This book was slightly crazy, but it’s dark fantasy reminded me a bit of Cruel Prince, but not as good. But the plotline was pretty intresting, and Leaf sounds hot. | 4 Stars 
  • The Start of Me and You by Emery Lord – Ooooooh this was cute, but was it great?? Not really, I could relate with the MC a bit, but the plot wasn’t that great. Or original. | 4 stars 
  • The Thousandth Floor by Katherine McGee – UGH NO THIS WAS NOT FOR ME AT ALL. There was incest, so much girl  hate, and unintresting plot line |1 star 

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  • Love, Hate, and Other Filters by Samira Ahmed – I have high expectations for this book, as it does touch upon a subject that is really important to me, and includes some diversity. I am currently liking it, but so far it’s pretty confusing???
  • Saints and Misfits by S.K Ali – Another highly anticipated book, and I readsome of it online through my library, and I’m not sure if I really like it?? Like the writing style is really rocky.
  • Off the Page by Jodi Picoult, and Samantha van Leer – Randomly picked this up, and it seems really cute. Also Jodi Picoult is a pretty popular author so I couldn’t resist.
  • The Rest of Just Live Here by Patrick Ness – Patrick Ness is a really good author, and this book sounds sooo intriguing, and it also got good reviews online! I am excited for this book.
  • Immaculate by Katelyn Detweiler – This was just picked up randomly, and the blurb sounds really weird, but interesting enough. It also got pretty good reviews, so it better be worth it because this book is like 300+ pages long.

U P C O M I N G

  • a whole bunch of mini reviews
  • endings – which type of endings are best for which type of books?
  • family relationships in books
  • blogging under a pseudonym – good or bad??

G O A L S

last months 

  • read all the books on this month’s tbr ✔ – I only had two books on my TBR, but I managed to read those, and read 5 more
  • KEEP ON DRINKING WATER ❌- nope nope nope nope.
  • do really good on the last of my exams (the pressure is on people) ✔ – YASSSSS YA GURL PASSED
  • post consistently (at least on discussion, and book review a week❌- NOPE I AM A FAILURE LOL

this month 

  • read at least 7 books this April
  • Write reviews for at least 3 of said books
  • Drink more water (plsss)
  • Post more often

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So that was it for my slightly boring March. How was your month? How many books did you read? What do you have coming up? What were some of your favorite reads?? Any recommendations?? 

 

 

 

 

 

 

how to spot a problematic book, and what to do with it

the bookish community is considered golden in my eyes. it’s such a strong community that binds people of all race, sexuality, and gender through just books. and the bookish community is most definitely not afraid to voice out opinions on something problematic.

but i’m sure it has crossed all our minds once or twice, what makes a problematic book so problematic? whats the difference between books that are just bad, and books that should definitely be avoided? i had my fair share of books being problematic, especially concerning diversity.  and since there was so much discussion about the realistic representation in books, of course problematic books were mentioned.

signs of a PB 

  • using a diverse character as a plot device – this is basically when a diverse character is just placed in the book too just further the plot. and not in a more impact/important way. it’s like they’re just there to provide help to a protagonist quest/journey. and they usually die early on. this is absolute BS because why make the diverse character seem so irrelevant, and unworthy.  this can sort of be seen in most movies today using a black person as the one with sass, and attitude.
  • cultural appropriation – the act of using one cultures, and representing it in a way that does not show or respect said culture in anyway. like say, a white girl with dreads, or having a character named Jin, but does not fit the charestics of a jin (*looks at Rebel of the Sands*)
  • stereotypes –  might be the easiest one to look for. a book that has stereotypes like “all Asians are smart”, and “all Asians have tiger-strict parents”, as well as “the gay best friend”. these irk me to no end, because they’re not true!! i think i’d prefer a non-diverse book than a book that has diverse characters, but representing them inaccurately.
  • “____ is Asian” – 
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me every single time i read “____ was asian,” 

allow me to bring up a map of Asia.

 

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how am i supposed to know how this character looks like if there are more than 40 countries in Asia. Are they Bengali, Indian, Korean, Japanese? most people typically believe that the largest continent is made up of THREE COUNTRIES.

 

  • “____ is pretty for a ___” – what is that supposed to mean? they’re pretty regardless of their race/ethnic group. they are pretty PERIOD.
  • using wrong pronouns – stop. when it comes to transgender, gender-fluid, or non-binary YOU MUST RESPECT THE PRONOUNS THEY ARE COMFORTABLE WITH. don’t simpily choose it based on the genitals they were born with. this is so, so, so important because of the lack of representation concerning LGBT community.  if you haven’t already noticed the recurring theme in this post, it’s to REPRESENT ACCURATELY.  
  • degrading ethnic group/race/sexuality – big red alert here! this can be anything from the use of slurs (which should never be used), to using them as villains in a book (Carve the Mark by Veronica Roth)
  • _______ is suffering from [insert disability] – i honestly never likes that term because of the word suffering. it makes it seem like disability is such a bad, and “weird” thing. authors should write other alternatives such as “______ has been diagnosed with [insert disability] when she was X years old”.
  • adjectives such as “exotic” to describe people – an example of this is when people describe Asian woman exotic. factually, this is wrong considering, that Asia has 48 countries. there are more of Asians than white’s, so technically, white people are the exotic one. and also, why exotic?? we are not some rare fruit, or spice. we are people!!
  • ” ______ is Desi” – it’s almost like point 4, but i just want to point out that Desi is a  political term that not everyone from South Asia refers themselves to. Desi doesn’t mean South Asian, it’s not interchangeable and so people should say South Asian if that’s what they mean.

how to deal with it

Spread the word, but provide backup – first put you review up on twitter, or goodreads, and then add evidence of how this book was being problematic. you can add direct quotes from the book, and explain why that was so problematic. paste your review in almost every platform available.  And do not recommend this book at all.

IF YOU ARE AN AUTHOR DO YOUR RESEARCH – there are plenty of resources available. the library,  schools, other people! try not to spread messages of of sexism, racism etc…, and closely evaluate your work. this might be a taboo opinon, but i feel like if you’re (meaning the authors) not sure about your topic, and don’t feel like you have done adequate research, i don’t recommend to include it in your story. this is better than hurting, and misrepresenting other people. but as long as you have researched well enough, it’s okay!!  *shields myself from rocks*

 

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so that my frend is how you spot a PB book! what are some problematic books you have read in the past? what are some other sings you can spot in a problematic book? also what are some good dark fantasy reads, because i just finished the cruel prince, and it jUST SET ME IN A MOOD 

 

a week of mondays book review // extremely cute!

28958920Title: A Week of Mondays

Author: 4 stars

Blurb (GR):

When I made the wish, I just wanted a do-over. Another chance to make things right. I never, in a million years, thought it might actually come true…

Sixteen-year-old Ellison Sparks is having a serious case of the Mondays. She gets a ticket for running a red light, she manages to take the world’s worst school picture, she bombs softball try-outs and her class election speech (note to self: never trust a cheerleader when she swears there are no nuts in her bake-sale banana bread), and to top it all off, Tristan, her gorgeous rocker boyfriend suddenly dumps her. For no good reason!

As far as Mondays go, it doesn’t get much worse than this. And Ellie is positive that if she could just do it all over again, she would get it right. So when she wakes up the next morning to find she’s reliving the exact same day, she knows what she has to do: stop her boyfriend from breaking up with her. But it seems no matter how many do-overs she gets or how hard Ellie tries to repair her relationship, Tristan always seems bent set on ending it. Will Ellie ever figure out how to fix this broken day? Or will she be stuck in this nightmare of a Monday forever?

From the author of 52 Reasons to Hate My Father and The Unremembered trilogy comes a hilarious and heartwarming story about second (and third and fourth and fifth) chances. Because sometimes it takes a whole week of Mondays to figure out what you really want.

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pro’s

  • very interesting read – so when i first picked this up from my library i internally cringed at the size. like that is a huge book, and i am scared of huge books. i was worried i would get bored after the first 100 pages. and then i learned that the character goes through the same day 7 times, i was ready to flake out. but wow look at that, i was super wrong.
    • this was a lighthearted book, but it contained some important life topics that can be applied too teenagers (mainly me). this made me stop and think about my life, and the way other people think about me.  were people seeing me the way i wanted to be perceived? or was i just sucking up to them like out heroine was doing at the first half of the story?
    • but like i said before this was also cute, and genuinely funny. and also had some great character development (discussed more below). there were some hilarious moments.
  • the concept was awesome! – a week where you can redo the bad days of your life before you get it right? sign me up please! i mean i can definetley see the bad sides, but i wouldn’t give it up the chance. i was also pretty surprised too see this in a contemporary book! but it fit in pretty well!!

cons

  • romance – tristan was just so ughhh! he used the “not like other girls trope”, and that was just enough to send me into a rage! and he used to just consider girls dramatic as a whole. and that got on my nerves (but not as bad when i saw ellie play right into his hands, like c’mon girl you can do better than that!!). so yeah he was a horrible boyfriend, and i’m pretty dissapointed it tool ellie 7 mondays to realize that. and then you have the actual love interest, which was Owen.  and owen was a little smol, fluff ball, WHO DIDN’T GET ENOUGH TIME IN THIS BOOK!!
    • i didn’t really see owen, and ellie romance blossom. there was several cute moments, but really miniscule compared to that-jerk-tristan. and overall, i think owen, and ellie would do better as a best friend duo?? i felt like she didn’t need a boy at the end??? yea so there’s my unpopular opinion.

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Ellison – so when i first was reading the book through her p.o.v, there was just this shrill, bitchy kinda voice. i couldn’t help it because she was acting completely boy-crazy over a stupid jerk. it was like her whole world revolved around trsitan. so i rolled my eyes. a lot.  but there was really awesome character development. and i love those!! ellie defienetly changed from some boy-crazy, a little space-headed girl to a badass who doesn’t give a f about what anyone thinks.  and i don’t mean the badass who wears black, and gives off an aloof vibe (because that is such a stereotypical view), but the type that puts their best self, and strives to make their-self happy.  and still doesn’t give a shit.

Tristan – hi, can someone throw an encyclopedia at him? because HE JUST GRATED ON MY NERVES!!

so like i said before, he used the whole “not like other girls trope”, and was just a complete snob. his response to almost everything was “i’m a musician, blah blah blah”. lIKE NO THE ONLY THING YOU ARE TRISTAN WHEELER IS A SELF-CENTERED JERK!!

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so yeah, didn’t really like him. so when ellie finally dumped his good for nothing ass, i was whooping!!

Owen – suuuper cute!! i loved owen, but i really wished he had more time in this book. he wasn’t really there for Ellie, and his romance to really develop. he just seemed so much better as a best friend, rather than a love interest.

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This was honestly, SO WELL-WRITTEN! I was super engrossed, and interested in the novel. one you started reading it, you couldn’t back out. the author has written as Ellie with a passion, and i loved it!

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so this is a pretty underrated book, which was worth my while. i really enjoyed this book. have you read this book? what did you think? what are your current reads?? and what are some favorite books you have read so far?

 

February wrap-up // a.k.a the month of the worst blogging slump ever.

Compared to last month, February flew by like the blink of an eye.  Like we’re already almost onto the third month of 2018, and that means I’m growing older, and like no. I want to stay a young, flailing child forever.

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  • I’m starting to get more active on twitter – (i finally remembered my password, lol)I don’t tweet consistently, and if I did it would be about nothing, because my life is boring. But I do post aesthetics about the latest books I have read, and I’m also free to talk about anything, and everything! So message me please!!
  • I did fabulous on my exams!! – I’m sooo happy I have been doing SUPER WELL in class!! And still managing to read a good number of books, and keeping up on twitter, this blog, and my two tumblr blogs!!! I find that amazing because I’m a slacker at heart, lol. I think having a studyblr really helped.
  • um that’s it, i have no life.
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  • I changed up my blogging design, and style – Again. I did it again. I’m pretty sure whatever is left of my followers is like what the actual hell, because this is the 1-th time I changed it, and we’re not close to being halfway through 2018. But I can’t help it because… idk actually. I also started using punctuation, and correct grammer. Before I used to type with lowercases, but I can’t take it anymore!!! The perfectionist in me is COMING OUT!
  • I’m soo close to 700 followers – As of right now I have 660 something, but if I got too 700 followers by the end of March, I have a super fun giveaway coming up!
  • I hit a huge blogging slump – A slump is like the worst feeling ever. I don’t exactly know why I hit it. I had a lot of ideas, and everything, but I just was so unmotivated, and my drafts all sound like trash. I’m really hoping March will be wayy better.

P O P U L A R    P O S T S

My blog

I legit posted like two things on this blog, but they did do well in terms of stats so.

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why negative reviews are so scary + how to not fail at writing them

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made you up book review // *sobs aggressively in the distance*

Other blogs 

I haven’t been around the blogosphere around a lot, but here are 3 favorites

Upcoming 

  • The Roles of Women in books
  • How To Spot Problematic Books
  • Turtles All The Way Down book review
  • Warcross Book Review

B O O K S   R E A D 

  • Turtles All The Way Down by John Green| 3.5 stars
  • Flame in the Mist by Renee Ahdieh | 4 stars
  • Made You Up by Francesca Zappia | 4.5 stars 
  • What To Say Next by Julie Baxbum | 2 stars
  • Scythe by Neal Shusterman | 3 stars
  • Warcross by Marie Lu | 4.5 stars (ADHKJSFHSAKLDFJASH I LOOOOVED THIS BOOOK) 

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I didn’t get that much books to read but I did get:

  • The Cruel Prince by Holly Black – NO.1 ON MY TBR. I LOVE ALL OF HOLLY BLACK’S BOOK TO SAY THAT I’M SO EXCITED IS AN UNDERSTATEMENT LOL.

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  • The New Guy (and other senior distractions) by Amy Spalding – Just something that I picked up along the way. I don’t have the most high expectations, but it sounds cute!!

G O A L S

  • read all the books on this month’s tbr
  • KEEP ON DRINKING WATER
  • do really good on the last of my exams (the pressure is on people)
  • post consistently (at least on discussion, and book review a week

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How was your month? How many books did you read? What do you have coming up? What were some of your favorite reads?? Any recommendations?? 

made you up book review // *sobs aggressively in the distance*

17661416Title: Made You Up

Author: Francesca Zappia

Blurb (GR): Reality, it turns out, is often not what you perceive it to be—sometimes, there really is someone out to get you. Made You Up tells the story of Alex, a high school senior unable to tell the difference between real life and delusion. This is a compelling and provoking literary debut that will appeal to fans of Wes Anderson, Silver Linings Playbook and Liar.

Alex fights a daily battle to figure out the difference between reality and delusion. Armed with a take-no-prisoners attitude, her camera, a Magic 8-Ball, and her only ally (her little sister), Alex wages a war against her schizophrenia, determined to stay sane long enough to get into college. She’s pretty optimistic about her chances until classes begin, and she runs into Miles. Didn’t she imagine him? Before she knows it, Alex is making friends, going to parties, falling in love, and experiencing all the usual rites of passage for teenagers. But Alex is used to being crazy. She’s not prepared for normal.

Funny, provoking, and ultimately moving, this debut novel featuring the quintessential unreliable narrator will have readers turning the pages and trying to figure out what is real and what is made up.

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***i’m not writing in my usual bullet style, because i have a lot too talk about, and i don’t want it too seem really big, chunky, blocks of text***

PROS 

I am in love with this book. from the cover, to all the pages, and even every last word of the acknowledgment page because this was just so. damn. good.

the plot was not like your ordinary sunshine, and rainbows kinda contemporary. it features a MC with paranoid schizophrenia, who moves to a new public school, and struggles too see beyond what her eyes are showing her. literally, she can’t really trust herself.

Although, this book did have an unreliable narrator, it wasn’t as complicated as A World Without You (a must read btw), and didn’t leave me confused out of my brain.  Alex was written as a “normal” character who is a major history nerd, rides a bike from Egypt. This book wasn’t solely on Alex and her struggles of being a patient with schizophrenia, it was also about her trying to make friends (which is hard regardless), and trying to figure out a way to help someone in need.

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i loved the growing relationship between Miles, and Alex. hate-to-love relationships fill my k-drama addict-self. but i also loved how they genuinely cared about each other, and their relationship was just filled with up’s, and downs, but they just seemed to fit. it was a slow burning romance sort of, and i just loved it!!

the friendships between Alex, and Tucker was just awesome. it was really easy going, and sweet, but the best part is there wasn’t any love triangle. thought there would be one, and it would get super complicated, but like almost every aspect in life i was wrong. though, this is the first time i’m glad i’m wrong. this just goes to show, that a boy and girl can have a platonic friendship. no romance needed.

aND THE PLOT TWISTS! you’d think that you’ll see things from a mile away, but nope. i was shook to my core, and some parts made want to curl up, and sob for eternity.

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Cons 

the only thing that i did have a problem with was the weird sub-plots. and to be honest, i didn’t mind it that much because it was pretty interesting, but definitely not needed.

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Alex – Alex has such a refreshing, and unique voice, i fell in love with her story instantly. she can be pretty bitchy, but it wasn’t like she acted like she was perfect as well. she was flawed, and she accepted that. another great aspect that i liked about her was, how she was able too see the good in people. it was almost like she refused too judge people. she liked to question them, and see why they did it. if they  had an actual reason. i thought that, that was a trait a real-life human should acquire. i related with Alex, and i loved her.

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Miles – i’m not saying that this was a super well-written secondary main character, but this was a super well-written secondary main character. miles was just so complex. he is considered a huge jerk at school. but he was actually just a boy who is suffering from the hands of his abusive father. doing anything, and everything to get his mother who was (falsely) accused of being crazy, out of a mental hospital. please someone give him a huge hug. miles just stabbed me in the face with all these feelings, yet i loved it???? yes, that’s how you know i’m crazy.

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this was a really good written book (as stated above). i wasn’t really confused, and lost in the plot. everything was structured, and always manged to suck me in the story. it was just so emotionally engaging, and gave me fresh outlook on things.

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 Were you planning on reading this book? Will you give it a try (please do, and tell me what you think)? Was this review even helpful? 

 

why negative reviews are so scary + how to not fail at writing them

reviewing is just part of a book blogging life.

reviewing is based on your opinion, and how you feel about the certain something. while stating your feelings sounds so easy, i came to realize that it’s not. it’s waaaay more complicated than that. especially if it’s negative, or a negative review amidst the sea of super popular ones.

why writing negative reviews can be scarier than taking a chem final

i lied nothings scarier than taking a chem final you didn’t study for 

  1. scared of backlash – when i was writing a review for when dimple met rishi, it involved important topics like sex, and diversity. i read that review 10x to make sure i wasn’t writing anything that can offend anyone. i rewrote every line that remotely looked like i was trying to say something bad. why? because i was scared. i was scared of being seen as someone who doesn’t support such an important thing, and someone who is percieved of being racist. it’s embarassing, and sad to be thought of someone like that.
  2. being the black sheep – confession time: way, way, way, back when i first started blogging (like i used to use blogger instead of wordpress) and i read hyped up books that let me down i changed my rating on goodreads so it could seem like i “fit in” with all the other positive reviews.  i didn’t write a whole review because anyone with a brain could’ve seen how fake i was. i don’t do this anymore, and i won’t do it anymore especially if a book is representing something in a very problematic storyline.
  3. being sued – okay this sounds of a bit of a stretch, but believe me when i say, i was super scared of writing anything negative about a product, or ANYTHING after i found out you can be sued. i read a blog post about someone getting sued 350,000 for writing a bad review, and lord help me, i don’t need to be so broke that i end up in the negative values. 
  4. authors can be scary?? – please read this, as well as this to figure out what i’m talking about.

so while we have that side let’s look on the side where it’s important to posting a negative review, and we shouldn’t be scared of it

  1. to start off, there may be people who actually agree with you. and may think you’re helpful because you just saved them a lot of time, by crossing of that book of their TBR.
  2. some authors will take the criticism in a good way, and hopefully use it later on to improve on their later books
  3. it’s part of book blogging. reviews are pretty much the heart, and soul of a book blog. it’s the second (after goodreads) people look up to for a review on a book. you wouldn’t want to spread false statements on your book reviews.
  4. fourth, and most important it’s your opinion., everyone has a different outlook on books, or things in general. so why should a negative opinion be considered in valid?

tips on writing negative reviews

  • try to relay your opinion in a calm, and polite way

unless it’s extremely problematic you don’t want to immediately start bashing on an author. blood, sweat, and tears (bts reference!!!) have gone into these books, and the author will probably be upset, and a little pissed off to be bombarded with deragatory words.

DON’T: this book was just soo stupid, i don’t even know how the publisher allowed this to be published! my eyes were literally burning with each sentence. the author made very character sound so stupid. how was this even the final draft??? my grandmother could’ve wrote better than this, and she didn’t even go to school!! 

i think i went a bit overboard

DO: to start off, the characters were more or less developed, and i found them doing something that should really need some looking-over. there were a lot of grammer mistakes, that didn’t help with the already, broken writing 

  • look at other peoples unpopular opinions

if you are unable or unsure of how to express your opinion (or if you don’t even know your opinion), you could look at the other reviews to help you out a bit. some people might see this as copying. that’s not the case. if you are quoting someone then of course credit them.

DON’T: *looks at famous blogger* *starts to write the same exact way, WITHOUT crediting them* 

DO: as another reviewer, ________ said, “lot of  plot holes, and dumb characters”. and i totally agree with that… 

  • try to be sassy!!

if you try sugar-coating, but you sound like a 40 year old professor, try to make you reviews more entertaining! i love reading, may’s, julianna, or cait’s reviews because they manage to tell if something is not wroth the time, but still make me laugh. i try (key word try) to be funny, but no. i am not.

DON’T: everything about this was so stupid. for example in page 131 paragraph, 6…. 

DO: i have no idea how to be sassy, but if you want awesome exampled read Cait from Paper Fury’s review of Warcross or Em @ softlykaz’s reviews  

  • balance it out

if you calm down enough, you might find something that was remotely good about the certain book. i remember when writing  When Dimple Met Rishi, i was so engrossed in writing away all the bad things about the book (which were a lot surprisingly) i forgot to focus on the one good aspect. which was the diversity, because it was so spot on.

I like to think that made me seem less like a angry, rambling, crazy, bitch, and made my conscience feel a bit better.

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and one final reminder: it’s okay to post a negative review. you are your own person so by that logic, you have your own DIFFERENT opinions. so what your favorite types of review? were these tips helpful? what are some other tips you can add on? are you comfortable sharing  negative review online? let me know!

 

january wrap-up // i’m super productive!!

usually every wrap-up i begin with, “x month has passed by soo fast!” well that’s not the case now! january seemed forever to pass along, and i’m happy to start febuary! but i’ll admit the first month of 2018 wasn’t as bad as i thought it would be.

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  • i started watching supernatural, and riverdale – so i took a break from watching k-drama’s, and anime to focus on these popular american shows! and i have to say it’s going pretty well!!! i love the plot of supernatural, and riverdale is okay.
  • MY HUBBIES ARE GETTING ATTENTION INTERNATIONALLY !! – SOOO If you haven’t heard already BTS is gaining a lot of attention in the U.S, and i couldn’t be more prouder. i have been with them since debut, and when they almost disbanded because they were soo broke, and look at them now!! I HAVE MOST OF THEIR ALBUMS, so yeah you can say I am a major ARMY!
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if you haven’t checked them out, please do!!
  • my!! grades!! are!! fabulous – while blogging somewhat good content, but still managing to be in the top 1% in school is an AMAZING FEELING, GUYS I’M SO HAPPY!! asdfghjkl remember school is more important than blogging, so don’t be guilty if you leave for like 5 months to focus on studies!! tenor

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  • i reached 600 followers! – so somehow while i was on a long hiatus (from most of september to december) i fained 600 followers. the count is actually 630 something. and yay, i’m really happy!! welcome new frennns! i don’t know how i reached these many followers, but i’m so grateful
  • i “try” to give my blog a makeover (for the hundreth time) – buuuuuut it backfires, and i end up reverting back to my old design. i’m okay with the design i had since summer, but sometimes i look at other blogs, and then all of a sudden i feel like changing up mine.
  • i slowly emerge from my hiatus – like i said ever since school started, i haven’t really gave any thought/attention to my blog (there are comments from august still waiting for a reply. oops), but every since the beginning of this month, i have been slowly posting more, and more, and getting my stats back up. i still haven’t got my schedule set in stone, but honestly i need to work at my entirely slow pace.
  • TOP POSTS

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zodiac signs as bibliophiles

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top five authors i discovered in 2017  

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i have read 8 books this month, which is suprising because ever since i got a new phone, i haven’t been reading much. but i still read a lot, and i’m happy because reading is LIIIIIFE!

  • Everything I Never Told You by Celeste Ng – wooow. this book was so heavy, and sent me on an emotional rollacoaster. i loved this book, but it did have it’s downsides (like being extremely slow at times). i also loved the writing style it just sucked you right in | 3.5 -> 4 stars
  • Girl Against the Universe by Paula Stokes – cute, cute. this book was soo cute. first an accurate representation of PSTD. second, girl!! friendships!! are!! everything!!. third, the romance was sooo cute. i loved this book a lot, and really reccomend to anyone | 4.5 -> 4 STARS 
  • If There’s No Tomorrow by Jennifer L. Armentrout – I love JLA book so much! so of course i was expecting another great book from her, but sadly no. i didn’t hate this book but i didn’t like it either. i just felt that the main character is just like EVERY OTHER MAIN CHARACTER from JLA books. | 3.5 -> 3 stars 
  • Eliza and Her Monsters by Francesca Zappia – THIS WAS SOOOO CUTE!! I loved the blossoming romance between the characters, and the drawings were wonderful. And another accurate representation of mental illness, wooow | 4 stars check out my aesthetic
  • Renegades by Marissa Meyer –  I was super excited to read another Marissa Meyer book, but no it was kinda really annoying. check out my aesthetic! | 3 stars 
  • When Dimple Met Rishi by Sandhya Menon – I hate to say this soo early in the year, but this might be the biggest let-down ever. Great representation, but everything else was horrible. Abusive, femal characters, horrible romance, and a weird plot. Definitely, check out my review for further explanation. | 2 stars 
  • Seven Days of You – Stupidest book ever. This was like watching those dumb reality shows on tv, where everything is fake, and pathetic. I was really hyped up when I found out the setting was in Japan. I was so ready for my anime-binging skills to come in, but the setting wasn’t even important. This could’ve been in New York, New Jersey, and NOTHING WOULD’VE CHANGED | 2 stars 
  • A Week of Mondays – At first I was really hatin this book, but then gradually I really, really, really liked it! My full review will be posted sometime this week or next week! |4 stars

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  • Enter Title Here by Rahul Kanakia – This is my current read, and it has an Indian rep! I didn’t here about this a lot, but the plot is pretty interesting.
  • Made You Up by Francesca Zappia – Yup, the same author who wrote Eliza and Her Monsters. I loved that book so much I couldn’t help myself when it came to this one.
  • Starfish by Akemi Dawn Bowman – Heard a lot of things about this book from good to super bad, but I wanted to give this out a chance.

not that much planned for this month!

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some my favorite posts from my favorite bloggers!

UPCOMING POSTS 

  • A Week of Mondays Review
  • Self-Care tips
  • How to write negative reviews
  • how to spot problematic book

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so that was it for my month, how was yours?? I haven’t been around the blogosphere as much as I wanted to be, hence the small posts :), but i plan on getting to know some new blogs this month!! How many book did you read, and that was your most favorite one? I need new recs for books, and tv shows! !